- Written by Gabi Gardner
Recently I’ve heard the phrase, “Just make sure you’re looking after yourself” too many times to count. Originally when people started saying it to me I just brushed it off as sort of a, “Oh yea, I already do that.” As it was said more and more, I’ve realised that I’m not sure that I fully understood it. It wasn’t just about trying to get enough sleep, and making sure that I’m eating right. It’s actually about paying attention to how I’m actually feeling. It’s made me realise yet again in my life, that admitting that I’m not in a good head space isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t help me to pretend everything is fine if it’s not. I have to actually deal with things to feel better sometimes.
You’re allowed to not be okay, but the next part you face is how do you then help yourself to be okay? And not just saying you’re okay but actually and truthfully being okay. It’s not necessarily easy and it’s not necessarily going to be the same for every person. Finding the way to do this is completely personal.
Whether it is by spending time with by yourself, spending time with close friends. Learning to listen to yourself, speaking up and being honest with how you feel to other people. No one method is the same and that is completely normal. But if you have a problem with finding your own method, try speaking to an adult you trust about it. It will take a lot of courage but it will be worth it in the end. There are definitely multiple people in your life who would love to listen and help you.
Learn your version of looking after yourself.